Using pick up lines can be fairly hit or miss when attempting to flirt with someone of either gender, no matter how slick you think you may be. There are a few rules to remember and tricks to try when deciding to employ a pick up line to increase your chances of success and reduce the risk of embarrassment
Try the honest approach.
Instead of a pick up line, just try the honest approach. Most people respond much better to a simple “Hi, my name is _______, what’s your name?” than they do a cheesy, overused pick up line. It may seem counter intuitive, but the direct and straightforward approach is the best one, over all, and it makes you seem like less of a creep. Don’t you want to start out on a good foot instead of falling flat on your face with a pick up line that he or she may have heard a million times before? First impressions matter a lot, especially if you’re trying to meet a new romantic partner, and you only get one chance to make a good one so make it count. This could be a story you tell to your kids down the line and a funny pick up line may not be the wisdom you wish to impart on your future generations. Also, according to psychology, “trait perception” plays a large role in those first interactions. Since we are not able to see a list of traits from the people we interact with, you are forced to infer them from the actions the other person takes. Coming at somebody with a cheesy pick up line like “Do you wash your pants in Windex? Cause I can see myself in them” says more about you than you think it does… and not in any good way.
Try the flattering approach.
If you want to use a pick up line, try just starting with something flattering. Be careful, though. There’s a thin line between sounding like a creep and saying something genuinely flattering. Try to stay away from anything too physical or personal. An exception to that is complimenting his or her smile, if they are in fact smiling. It’s best to stick to flattering his or her choice of drink or an item of clothing (think more shirt and less pants). Make sure that they know you are approaching them as a person and not as a body. Some pick up lines tend to sound like you’re only interested in getting to know their body and not the whole person and can be a huge turnoff. Approach someone genuinely and compliment them on something that sticks out. Don’t try too hard… people can see right through that and you come off as aggressive or a fraud.
Remember, pick up lines can be fun if you use them intelligently. A good pick up line is one that is genuine, funny and direct without being creepy or reducing the person to a body part.